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**Disclaimer: The following story is true and contains material that some might find unsettling, and therefore it is not for the weak hearted.
A few years ago I met a man through a friend via an online dating site. We decided to go on a date because he was very persistent and showed a lot of interest. At first things were great. He was nice, respectful, charismatic, and treated me like a queen. Then one day, he became rude, abusive, and outright violent. I had to break it off because I have a 7 year old son (4 years old at the time), and I was looking out for his best interest. Unfortunately, the man did not want to break up with me, and started to follow me everywhere, sit outside my house in his car, call my job, home, cell, family, some calls were plain eerie along with death threats and heavy breathing. This happened all the time and I lived in fear, and then worse…he tried to do the unthinkable.
First, he sent naked pictures of me to my boss, then on a revenge website which got me fired, and a few months later made me lose my house because I now had no source of income and was afraid to leave my house. Then he took it a step further and showed up at my house in the middle of the night, broke in while I was sleeping (along with my son), and forced himself on me, beating me, punching me, and suffocating me. He was a big, and strong man and full of evil!! When I tried to fight back, he pulled out a knife and wouldn’t let me go. He strangled me, and suffocated me until he thought I was dead! So he took his hands off my lifeless body and walked into another room, when my son came in the room to check on my screams, I opened m eyes and the site of him gave me strength. I managed to break free, grab my son, and run for my car screaming. The neighbors called the police and came outside because I was frantic and bleeding, clutching my son. The police came and they wouldn’t do much besides arrest him and let him out on bail . This stalking, harassment, and violence continued for months to the point I had to get the courts involved, more police, and even the FBI before anyone took me serious.
That’s when I met the CEO of Instamour, while hiding in my room looking for at home employment so I didn’t have to leave my house. Jason Sherman gave me hope and employment. He believed in me and was horrified that this happens to everyday people. He even talked to the FBI and police for me to help with this issue. He was the only person that didn’t judge me, and instead he showed true concern and wanted to find a way to help. We spent many days and nights perfecting Instamour together to make it welcoming and safe for women like me. I was able to work and not be afraid because we had such a tight nit team I felt at home. This was my therapy, creating a safe place to find real love and protecting women from cowards like the man I had met. I went from having no hope to giving others hope as the VP of an amazing startup company. I thank god everyday for Instamour.
I suddenly realized I wasn’t a victim anymore and that fate was at play, and I was meant to be a part of this company and something real. I was now able to help other women and share my story. I want to personally thank all of you ladies for joining our cause, and I would love to hear any feedback from you about our app or any stories that you might have as well. If you would like to email me directly, to talk more, or if you would even like a phone call from me to talk about your story, or our app, or anything at all, I would really like that. Leave me a comment and let’s chat!
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I have had bad online dating experiences, thank God none like yours! I find most of the men lie about their age, their height, their weight, they put up 10 year old photos. The last three guys I dated were from various online dating sites.
The first was a narcissistic, alcoholic who turned out to not want children, I stated from the beginning I do!
Then after that, was a guy who shaved 7 years off his age, and put up pictures of his body building days, many years ago. I tried to still give him a chance, fell in love with his daughter, only to find not only is he in AA, but he is on psychotropic drugs for depression and anxiety.
Still hopeful for love, the next guy seemed great! Great job, age seemed right, seemed to be a bit too into me, but I can handle that. After a few months of dating I finally found out he has 2 children and an ex wife!!! I brought children up all the time, he never mentioned having any. nor an ex wife. I did a little more research on the internet to find out his ex-wife has the same first name, is also a redhead with green eyes! She looks just like me and we have very similar interests and backgrounds.
Oh, and he too is on medication for anxiety, and depression!
So, when Instamour came along, I jumped at the opportunity to not waste another Saturday night getting ready for an hour, meeting another stranger, to date and fall for only to find out months later that they have been false about who they are and lying about they want all along! When you see a video and hear their voice, see their faces, you get a real sense of what you are about to get into. Plus, not having to give my personal number out is huge!
Thank you Instamour for this amazing, safe site for single ladies everywhere!
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E- Sounds like you found some real winners with emotional and addiction problems . Maybe before you go on a date you should ask A. Are you on any meds for depression and anxiety ? B. are you recovering from drugs or alcohole? C. Do you have an ex wife or kids ? D. Do you have any exes with my name that look like me lol? That is by far a creepy story not only did he not tell you but in his previous relationship was married to your almost twin with the same name . Keep us posted I hope you meet your prince this year it sounds like you are in the right direction on Instamour. The date before the date 😉
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Funny thing is, after my first experience online, I did put in my profile “please do not be on any psychotropic drugs, no depression or anxiety, etc please?!” And, they just lied to me. Months into the relationship it comes out, I asked “why would you lie to me?” Replied “It does not affect my life these drugs!” HAhaha, oh I greatly disagree! And there is no room for lies in a relationship!
Thank you for your support:):)
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There are some big signs I avoided out of being lonely and I had just moved to another state away from family an friends . Men that are stalkers get angry easily on a drop of a hat see they think they are the victims . If you are late for a date or your phone rings in front of them expect an explosion and them breaking your phone . Another thing is they want to isolate you they want to tell you that your friends and family are no good they hate you only be understands you and loves you . Most of your conversations will be about what you are going wrong in life and how you need him or her because on your own you are lost and pathetic what would you possibly do without them .When you get into a fight this person won’t think twice to break your things keep you from running out they will push you aggressively hold you back . You will have bruises in this kind of relationship and find yourself scared and crying most days . Why not just leave we besides the brainwashing nobody loves you and your worthless they will begin to threaten harm on your friends family children .Then they will show you how serious they are by calling them with threats leaving strange notes in mailboxes sitting outside your mothers house the list goes on ! So once you feel so hopeless and alone and all you do is cry they will attack you that’s what happens I have so much more danger signs but I listed a few hope this helps .
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Wow Kristin……..I’m so sorry to hear about what happened to you. I had no idea. It certainly doesn’t show in your *sparkly* personality!! Thanks for sharing your story….hopefully it will save some other woman (or man) the heartaches and pain you have experienced.
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Mark thank you so much that’s the mission 🙂 that’s why if anybody out there needs a listening ear or wants to share their story on Instamour’s blog please do it can only help others . Please don’t be ashamed this happens everyday to someone and is never spoken about because our society can be judgmental and cold at times and if anyone understands your pain I do this isn’t something anybody wants their daughter ,friend ,sister , coworkers etc to go through . If more women would speak up maybe these violent crimes would be taken more serious instead of the stalkers or criminals getting to do this over and over to their victims .
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Sorry to be politically correct this stuff happens to men also so please share .
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